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Jesse James: Childhood Abuse Made Me Cheat

Jesse James: Childhood Abuse Made Me Cheat

Jesse James is claiming that his childhood abuse led him to cheat on his ex-wife Sandra Bullock with numerous women.

“I grew up with a huge amount of shame and fear and abandonment on my shoulders from a very young age and I think, you know, the way my mind rationalized [cheating], ‘Well, you know, I might as well do whatever I can to like run her off cause she is going to find out what I am anyway and leave me anyway,’” the 41-year-old James told Nightline.

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Jesse also claims his father was physically and emotionally abusive. “He beat my ass pretty good a bunch of times…I just remember, like, clinched teeth, strained-neck look on his face,” Jesse shared. “My whole childhood, I never had a chance to be a kid. …I was always scared.”

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Adds Jesse, “I don’t think I have a sex addiction where I’m running around trying to have sex with everyone and I can’t stop. I think I do things to sabotage my life, including having extramarital affairs, texting, overworking myself, injuring myself, doing stunts and stupid things. I think I do a lot of things in my life that I shouldn’t be doing that aren’t conducive to being a perfect husband, you know, and the affairs are just one of them.”

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  • MAC

    Seriously SHUT THE FCK UP!

  • I n F a m o u s l y C o o l

    …ahahahahahaa.. i love hearing him speak. he’s like a little soft spoken tard. ahahahahaaa.. it’s like a comedian pretending to be special-ed.

  • Iffy Miffy

    This is what we call trying to save your own a$$.
    It’s not that all these things aren’t horrible if they happened, I am sorry for the guy but this is not an excuse.
    It is not an excuse because you are an adult and there are, unfortunately, many many people who have experienced some sort of abuse in their childhood yet they have either sought help or somehow learned to live with the consequences. This does not excuse you!
    The only reason he’s talking about it is to try and get some sympathy – you’re a grown man you jerk – you feked up – accept it and accept the consequences! Then people may actually think a bit better of you!

  • GPS

    Jesse James, stop embarrassing yourself any further, you f***ing loser!

  • Nora

    theres NO excuse for cheating on america’s -oh sorry- the world’s sweetheart .. I F*ckin hate him ..

  • K

    I HATE IT,when people pull out the Victim Card, when they screw up. What a LOSER

  • Mandy

    Child abuse is a serious thing, It’s not a game.
    It’s a shame that a person uses these kind of serious issues to cover mistakes.
    Very bad ***thumbs down***

  • N.

    Wow, now he throws out excuses. Very disappointing. Just own up to what you did, dude. I’m glad Sandy’s moved on. Whether the abuse happened or not, I don’t see there being any good excuse for what he did. Yuck.

  • annab

    Just because something terrible happens to someone in their past, does not mean they can do terrible things to people later. He should accept the fact that it’s his problem and not blame anyone else.

  • troi

    Well I didn’t get the feeling he was blaming anyone but himself.

    I’ve worked with victims of abuse and many of them do try and sabotage their successes (jobs, marriage, whatever) because deep down they don’t or can’t believe they deserve to be happy and successful. This can run from affairs to break up a marriage or doing stupid things at work to get fired, demoted or whatever. If a person hasn’t dealt with the abuse then all of the “they are an adult and can make decisions” or “grow up” statements don’t help. Unless you have been there, you can’t possibly understand the deep rooted feelings of unworthiness, pain and suffering.

    Not saying what he did was right, but it is between him and Sandra as to how they go forward whether all of us agree or disagree with their relationship.

  • ka-blamo

    This guy makes his own a–hole cringe at the things he says.

  • Channy

    Why oh why wont he shut u and move on like Sandy?

  • Courtni

    Troi u said what I was gonna say

  • Dasiy

    Oh Boo Hoo! F*** You!

  • Nora

    One can only put so many blames on their parents, siblings, neighbors, or even addiction. He obviously didn’t learn the tools to take accountability or own up to his bad behavior.

    It’s time to man-up, straighten up, and wake up.

    Stop the blame…

  • what?

    …seriously ?

    hey man, gimme a break

  • troi

    You are right, he didn’t learn the tools to take accountability etc., but he appears to be trying to honestly learn them now. Unlike Tiger Woods who probably will remain a serial cheater like many other Hollywood and sports stars.
    Again, I’m not saying that he was right in his actions, but maybe it took something like this for him to say “hey, I need to turn my life around in order to be a better person.”

  • L.D.

    Agreed #17. One can only hope.

  • fardous

    really ? ssorry im not take from u shuold get over it

    sandra dont deserv that from u

  • jaye

    Jesse is doing what Jesse does best, acting; he’s a showman. Maybe he should have a career in Hollywood. The man is pathetic. If he wasn’t found out, he’d still be cheating. Nothing and no one is responsible for what he did but himself. Period.
    He’s not someone who just cheated on Bullock, the man hasn’t had a relationship where he didn’t cheap, the only difference is no one else cared enough to be hurt. He’s not going to turn his life around because he LIKED his life as it was; He was a b*adass, the man, THE Jesse James. People knew him coast to coast. Then he married Bullock and had to ‘work’ at being married to her. Never again was he talked about in print or otherwise without it being said that he was married to Sandra Bullock. I bet that really ate at his craw. THE MAN was now the ‘accessory’ husband. His claim to fame was being married to her.
    Now he can just do his pity me tour and then go back to his legion of hoochie mamas who have NO redeeming qualities. No one made him live the life that he did, he did it because he wanted it. He liked living on the edge, he liked his bad boy reputation because other people thought he was cool. . As for being a perfect husband there is no such thing as a perfect husband or wife. Just being a decent human being would help though.

  • Morgan

    Two words for you Jesse…..Enough already!!

  • jennifer

    Jessie was an alcoholic and he already had years of therapy for Alcoholism –So I don’t buy it that he is just now realizing his child abuse issues! Come on –he has dealt with that –this is an excuse for those that do not know he already had therapy on child abuse.
    He committed adultery and should be stoned –as he is being –at least metaphorically !

  • ck_always

    He’s still a bad*ss, keep on truckin’ Jesse.


    He got the boot! Now he is abused and DUMPED!
    Just because he got hurt does not mean that he has to inflict his pain on others. It’s not making it right.
    He lost a beautiful talented sweet woman for a tattoo covered pierced nobody that he will never see again just to get his stupid rocks off.

  • me

    i’m sure she saw and loved the good in him – i hope he can overcome the effects of the trauma he suffered now that he is facing it.
    why are these comments so hostile and unforgiving?

  • me

    i’m sure she saw and loved the good in him – i hope he can overcome the effects of the trauma he suffered now that he is facing it.
    why are these comments so hostile and unforgiving? he hurt himself as well

  • Kya’Zon

    What a whiney baby, everybody has a story that
    will break your heart Jesse… some people grow
    up and act like adults and others just act like
    messed up kids for the rest of your life.. you
    made your own choices. Loser choices, but
    choices all the same.

  • really

    wow he made me cry (because I have a brother just like this!!, my dad was the exact same, one to one—even the bald patch)…and seeing a male son get beat or even abused in any way, brings back memories of my brother (who is also a huge cheater on his wife)…..I still have nightmares about my dad abusing my brother (I mean my dad would even belt-spank my brother naked!)…..ABUSE is vile and takes help, positive sincere help! I hope Jesse keeps getting help…..

  • http://msn guest

    I am tired of hearing everyone blame their actions on abuse. At this day and age almost everyone who is walking around has a story of abuse from childhood. I have a horrendous story, but it has not stopped me from being a great spouse, and parent to my children. I broke the chain, so to speak. It takes work and great strength. I do not believe that Sandra would not have been understanding. But I also believe that it is hard to know when is the right time to tell that person you love about all the bad in your past. Tough call.

  • beatrice

    what a big crybaby loser. I thought bikers were supposed to be tough. This guy isnt anything but a whiny crybaby douchebag. Please Jesse do us all a favor and just go away.

  • stud

    I cant believe jesse is acting like this. He should have just said to everyone (including sandra). Hey Im a man and I do what and who I want when I want. Deal with it bioooootch. Thats what a real man does. Grow some nuts jesse and stop being a little woosy boy.

  • jamesbertram

    @ stud. I agree with you 100%. I cheat on my wife all the time and she knows it. I dont care and if she doesnt like it she can hit the road. Men need to stop apologizing for being men.


    he’s just sorry …..HE GOT CAUGHT…he know’s the bucks/his buck are going to…STOP…..DAM HE HAD A GOOD LIFE…..AND -UCKED IT UP……now a new guy has a chance…GOOD JOB, WAY 2 GO…..BAD -SS JESSES


    YOUR A -SS #32