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Taylor Swift Gives Fan Advice: Unrequited Love is Just as 'Crushing' & 'Thrilling' as True Love

Taylor Swift Gives Fan Advice: Unrequited Love is Just as 'Crushing' & 'Thrilling' as True Love

Taylor Swift graciously stops to take a photo with a fan while heading to a photo shoot on Thursday morning (July 24) in New York City.

The 24-year-old singer recently took to Instagram to give advice to a fan who asked about a guy she likes, who doesn’t feel the same way.

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Hannah. Eyes, eyes, eyes. Woah. You have the prettiest, widest, most child like eyes. (Composes herself) Okay. About this guy. I think we grow up thinking the only love that counts as true love is the kind that lasts forever or is fully realized,” Taylor wrote (via HuffPo). “When you have a broken heart, the first thing a stranger will ask is ‘how long were you two together?’ As if your pain can be determined by how long you were with someone. Or if you were with them at all. I don’t think that’s how it works.”

She continued, “I think unrequited love is just as valid as any other kind. It’s just as crushing and just as thrilling. No matter what happens in this situation, I want you to remember that what you are doing is selfless and beautiful and kind. You are loving someone purely because you love them, not because you think you’ll ever have your affections reciprocated. You are admiring something for its beauty, without needing to own it. Feel good about being the kind of person who loves selflessly. I think someday you’ll find someone who loves you in that exact same way.”

WHAT DO YOU THINK of Taylor Swift’s views on unrequited love?

FYI: Taylor is wearing an alice + olivia outfit with the Dolce&Gabbana ‘Linda’ handbag.

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  • Jmo

    She needs to eat a cheeseburger.

  • B

    wow. WOW. WOOOW. I take back everything bad I ever said about Taylor Swift, I may not like her, but I bet she helped that girl a lot with these insightful words, so she’s earned some respect there. wow. well said and how kind of her.

  • Sheila

    I don’t mind Taylor, she is harmless. But that girl is stuck at being 14 My 18 year old niece sounds more mature than Taylor!! Taylor has arrested development, talks like a teenager!! She sounds just like JLO does about love. She’s the 20 something love- twin of JLO!! They talk about love like it’s all unicorns and fairytales. Change the channel ladies!! Taylor is the country version of JLO and I predict she will be JLO at 45, still talking about love int the words of a 14 year old *shakes head*.

  • none

    I like Taylor Swift. She carries herself like a young lady.

  • andrea

    This chick has no clue about love. Just because a couple guys dump on you doesn’t mean you turn it around and dump on all of them from that point on (writing songs after purposely dating them for only a couple months). And at this point with the money she has and her popularity, she will never be able to find that one true love that she can trust to love her unconditionally.

  • Cate

    She is really sweet to her fans.

  • Sassypants


    I agree with everything you said about Taylor Swift, that’s my only gripe with her.

  • nice

    that was really nice for taylor to say. unrequited love is just as valid as true love and she gave a very nice explanation to it and im not even a fan. kudos to taylor

  • cool

    thanks for saying the designer jared. this outift is definitely gonna sell out though, its a very nice outfit.

  • Drats

    I don’t know why this is so, because she is bizarrely skinny, but her thighs in short skirts are jarring. She shouldn’t be we rating skirts that short because they are most unbecoming to her legs.

  • CJ

    The validation that serial stalkers have been waiting for… Well done Taylor

  • sky

    Ok, i use to love this trend but she has worn this style so often now that it’s now become a sweater twin set. wtf taylor.

  • NITS

    If you let your daughter take advice from this promiscuous harlot you need to educate yourself.

  • Jack

    You need to educate yourself about your ignorance.

  • Jack

    You’ve misinterpreted the words by taking it beyond it’s meaning. Unrequited love is a real thing for many people. It does not mean that these people will turn into stalkers. All Taylor is saying is to recognize that these feelings are real and so try to see the beauty in it. In fact she is stating the opposite of what the stalker would see. A Stalker would make these feelings a negative emotion and try and control another person unrealistically and not anything positive could come from it except obsession. Taylor is being realistic in stating that you should recognize what you are feeling as a normal (beautiful, and selfless thing). The keyword is selfless. Stalkers are not selfless. By seeing the beauty, you let it run it’s course until you can turn to another.

  • me

    dang,,shes super georgeous and smart too,love her.

  • Rondoletti

    “we can only hope so”.