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Ariana Grande Opens Up About Being Objectified: 'I Am Not A Piece of Meat'

Ariana Grande Opens Up About Being Objectified: 'I Am Not A Piece of Meat'

Ariana Grande just took to her Twitter account to call out a fan for objectifying her.

The 23-year-old pop star was going out to eat with her boyfriend Mac Miller when an excited fan approached Mac. He was excited and told Mac he was a big fan and Ariana thought it was cute. Then the fan went on to talk about Ariana and that’s where it got uncomfortable.

“went to pick up food with my boyfriend tonight and a young boy followed us to the car to tell Mac that he’s a big fan. He was loud and excited and by the time M was seated in the drivers seat he was literally almost in the car with us,” Ariana began.

“I thought all of this was cute and exciting until he said ‘ariana is sexy as hell man i see you, i see you hitting that!!!’ *pause* Hitting that? the f–k?? This may not seem like a big deal to some of you but I felt sick and objectified. I was also sitting right there when he said it,” she continued.

Click inside to read Ariana’s full note…

“went to pick up food with my boyfriend tonight and a young boy followed us to the car to tell Mac that he’s a big fan. He was loud and excited and by the time M was seated in the drivers seat he was literally almost in the car with us. I thought all of this was cute and exciting until he said ‘ariana is sexy as hell man i see you, i see you hitting that!!!’ *pause* Hitting that? the f–k?? This may not seem like a big deal to some of you but I felt sick and objectified. I was also sitting right there when he said it. (?) I’ve felt really quiet and hurt since that moment. Things like happen all the time and are the kinds of moments that contribute to women’s sense of fear and inadequacy. I am not a piece of meat that a man gets to utilize for his pleasure. I’m an adult human being in a relationship with a man who treats me with love and respect.”

“an adult human being in a relationship with a man who treats me with love and respect. It hurts my heart that so many young people are so comfortable enough using these phrases and objectifying women with such ease. I felt like speaking out about this one experience tonight because I know very well that most women know the sensation of being spoken about in an uncomfortable way publicly or taken advantage of publicly by a man. We need to talk about these moments openly because they are harmful and they live on inside of us as shame. We need to share and be vocal when something makes us feel uncomfortable because if we don’t, it will just continue. We are not objects or prizes. We are QUEENS.”

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Posted to: Ariana Grande, Mac Miller

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  • Phillip Ayling

    I guess being a “Queen” explains why she licks doughnuts and then puts the back for an unsuspecting public.

  • Phillip Ayling

    I guess being a “Queen” explains why she licks doughnuts and then puts the back for an unsuspecting public.

  • Phillip Ayling

    I guess being a “Queen” explains why she licks doughnuts and then puts the back for an unsuspecting public.

  • joshemerson

    She’s so full of it. First of all, she’s made her career out of being a sex symbol so STFU. Second, guys are objectified as well and no one complains. No one whines about The Bachelor focusing on tons of sexy shirtless shots of the guy. People only care about Scott Eastwood when he’s shirtless. It’s just how it is.

  • Koos

    she is a vegatarian?

  • Dee

    HIGH-FREAKING-LARIOUS. this girl shaped like a 12 yo boy shaped like a plank who wears lingerie /s&m/ skimpy/ hooker boots doesnt want to be objectified? hun, you have been trying your best to make people see you as a piece of meat and not a not a prepubescent boy.

  • Dee

    HIGH-FREAKING-LARIOUS. this girl shaped like a 12 yo boy shaped like a plank who wears lingerie /s&m/ skimpy/ hooker boots doesnt want to be objectified? hun, you have been trying your best to make people see you as a piece of meat and not a not a prepubescent boy.

  • Sansa Squad

    she said herself things like this “happen all the time” (presumably to her, though it applies generally as well) but just because it happens all the time doesn’t mean it doesn’t still hurt… it’s also a little different when it’s directed at women vs. men, because the legitimate fear of being physically overpowered by someone who objectifies you/views you in a dehumanizing way is a lot more real and common for women than it is for men. (and while those examples you mention of men being objectified are all valid, those are an isolated handful; not only are there tons of respectful portrayals of men in our media to balance those out, but I think you’d agree that instances of women being objectified are not only more numerous and far-reaching but WAY more normalized/accepted by our culture.) that said, this doesn’t HAVE to be “just how it is” – these are things we should “complain” (personally, I think a more fair/productive term would be “speak out”) about because if they make people feel unsafe or uncomfortable we need to change them.

  • Sansa Squad

    she said herself things like this “happen all the time” (presumably to her, though it applies generally as well) but just because it happens all the time doesn’t mean it doesn’t still hurt… it’s also a little different when it’s directed at women vs. men, because the legitimate fear of being physically overpowered by someone who objectifies you/views you in a dehumanizing way is a lot more real and common for women than it is for men. (and while those examples you mention of men being objectified are all valid, those are an isolated handful; not only are there tons of respectful portrayals of men in our media to balance those out, but I think you’d agree that instances of women being objectified are not only more numerous and far-reaching but WAY more normalized/accepted by our culture.) that said, this doesn’t HAVE to be “just how it is” – these are things we should “complain” (personally, I think a more fair/productive term would be “speak out”) about because if they make people feel unsafe or uncomfortable we need to change them.

  • Sansa Squad

    the way you talk about her body (which is gross btw) says a lot more about you than it does about her. I don’t think anything she says here is unreasonable or unfair.

  • SaraJ

    Get over it. In this instance, she is 100% right.

  • SaraJ

    Shut up, jerk. Her body doesn’t give you a right to objectify her or anyone else. If she was born with more curves it wouldn’t be right then either.

  • John Dow

    If you don’t want to be objectified, then don’t dress up and don’t act like a cheap stupid whore and don’t promote your own objectification in your songs.

  • Shelby

    While I see her point, and agree that what the kid said was disrespectful… not defending him in any way… she has done nothing to promote respect for herself in the way she acts and dresses. So it’s kind of hard to feel for her. Using sex to make her millions then complain she’s objectified. Another entertainer who can’t think past first base. There are consequences to your actions.

    Having said that, the kid may have said the same thing even if she weren’t so provocative. And he clearly needs to grow up. I’m sure his mother is super proud.

  • Nicholas Budgen

    She sings a song about being fucked so much she walks side to side, acts like a slut then treated like a slut and objectifies? Mindblowing.

  • Nicholas Budgen

    Crazy

  • Nicholas Budgen

    :/

  • Naynay

    so you have the right to feel “objectified” now ? after litteraly objectifying yourself throughout your career let’s not act like she doesn’t perform half naked and doesn’t sing about sex every occasion she feels like it

  • Lee

    She sings a song about being boinked so hard she can’t walk. Then she complains……?!

  • Dee

    you didnt get my point at all. lol

  • Dee

    says about me? lol. she objectify herself with what she chooses to wear to promote her music. then says she doesnt want to be seen as a piece of meat. hypocrite.

  • Dee

    maybe she should wear business casual instead of s&m bunny ears if she doesnt want people to objectify her.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    Wow, a 20-something complaining about being “objectified”.

    Note to all young women, listen to the voice of experience here, in about a decade you’re going to wish with all your heart you were being “objectified”, you’re going to lay awake at night thinking about it, stare at yourself in the mirror trying to recall what it was like when you turned heads, and sit around talking with your friends about what it was like back in your glory days. Believe it. Enjoy your sexual power over men while you have it, because you won’t have it for long, and that includes Ariana Grande. Ask Cher, Brittney Spears, and Madonna how easy it is to pull off being an old rock star. And you better believe they aren’t licking donuts between concerts, they’re working their tails off in the gym.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    Your being female doesn’t give you the right to tell other people what they can and can’t say, either. If dude wants to talk about her breasts, face, or her donut licking habits, he can if he wants to. As long as he isn’t yelling fire in a crowded theater or threatening people with harm he can pretty much say whatever he wants to, it’s called FREEDOM. Whether or not he offends you or anyone else isn’t the criteria for speech. Welcome to Merica.

    It might come as a complete surprise to you, but a lot of us don’t give a crap about whether you are offended or not.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    “It might come as a complete surprise to you, but a lot of us don’t give a crap about whether you are offended or not.”

    In fact, I’d go out of my way to TRY to offend your smug a$$.

  • Sansa Squad

    point taken, but I think what a lot of people are missing is that there’s a difference between the costumes someone wears in art/performance and the outfits they choose to wear as people in their everyday lives… she might wear a certain type of outfit on stage or in photoshoots, but at the end of the day, she’s a real person putting on a performance. (I think there’s also clearly a larger underlying issue, which is that in our media/culture, female sexuality is ONLY presented to us as being for male pleasure – so much so that we’re conditioned to view a woman who wears “s&m bunny ears” as a de facto sex OBJECT instead of a human person with her own sexual agency who happens to enjoy s&m… which to me seems like the more important point here.)

  • gini crax corns

    She dresses provocatively in her vids and onstage, with the rabbit ears and thigh high skirts. Obviously young boys, which is who made this comment, find her sexual.

    Who is her audience anyway? 40 year old men? 30 year old men? 40 year old women? 30 year old women? Her audience is tweens to low 20′s, people just entering their sexual awakening.

    The phrase “I’d hit that” came from music from the same type of people she runs with. Goes with the territory. Tell me she never “objectified” a guy she was with. Gimme a break crybaby snowflake.

    She’s hasn’t got press for awhile so she figured she’d drum this up. It’s better than “I hate Americans and I hate America and lemme lick the donuts then sell them to somebody else…” That kept her in hiding for a year with the drapes closed. Record something somebody really wants to listen to.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    WTF I’m tired of this argument. Look, it isn’t “blaming the victim” to point out that women do walk around TRYING to be noticed. If you don’t want to be noticed, wear a freaking hoodie and some jeans, not a bra top with a skirt so short half your a$$ is hanging out.

    Go do a google search of images for “men’s clothing” and then do the same thing for “women’s clothing” and objectively compare the two. Yeah, there are some guys who go shirtless with their junk hanging out, but that’s basically the NORM for a huge amount of females. When guys do it other guys laugh at them, when women do it it’s for the sake of beauty, but its all still the same thing, you’re trying to elicit a response using your body and what its clothed in. Acting all demure and clueless about it doesn’t change that.

    But most importantly, back to the central tenants of femanism, what are we supposed to believe here, that women are strong and can deal with something as simple as having catcalls on the street, or that they are such freaking weak pathetic creatures that they need society to protect them from the gazes of those evil, powerful males. You can’t have it both ways. IN short, you don’t hear guys going around b*tching because women are checking them out or saying sexual stuff to them, because they know that nobody gives a *&^%.

    If you don’t want guys objectifying you for your clothing and body stop going around wearing objectifying clothing on your damn body, stop painting your nails, and stop putting red crap on your lips. You don’t see guys doing *&^% like that because they want to be judged for what they do, and who they are, not what they look like.

  • SaraJ

    Actually, it does – he’s harassing her by following her to their car. She said he was yelling through the window and what he was yelling was sexist and harmful. “hitting that” alludes to the girl being used as a “thing”, not participating – why isn’t the WOMAN ever “hitting that”?
    At the worst, it’s illegal harassment; at the best, it’s gross. Good on her for speaking out.

  • SaraJ

    Steven Tyler of Aerosmith frequently performed with tight pants and no shirt – should he be objectified and harassed in public? What about models whose job it is to showcase outfits? Is this Muslim America, where you want every woman to cover up their necks and top of heads and every other inch? Where does it stop?

    Her sexuality – and she has a RIGHT to that – doesn’t mean another man is “hitting that”. Shut up.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    Jesus F. I can tell by your writing that you’re like 20-something and don’t know the first thing about what life is like. If I had a nickle for every time somebody said some mean *&^% to me I’d be a billionaire. Women have no idea how good they’ve got it.

    You want to see what its like from a female point of view to be a guy, check this video out. And we’re supposed to be upset that Ariana Grande couldn’t handle what some dorky teenager said to her boyfriend ? Gimme a break.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQ2fREo3Tjc

  • Sansa Squad

    not sure who you’re talking about when you say the “type of people she runs with” (young people? rappers? because she publicly took big sean to task in the past for talking about her disrespectfully in his music, and she distanced herself from him because of it, and her current boyfriend – also a rapper – doesn’t use that kind of demeaning language when addressing her/their relationship so I wouldn’t necessarily say it “goes with the territory”). but her whole point is that it shouldn’t just be a normal thing women have to deal with. whether you “find her sexual” or not, she’s still a human being worthy of respect, which is obviously something people still need to be reminded of. I can understand taking a cynical viewpoint on this, but I really do think she’s sending an important message here, especially to her younger audience (including, specifically, the boy who said this in the first place) who are still forming key social skills and shaping their world perspectives. I have trouble understanding how encouraging people to treat one another with respect is in any way a bad thing, but I appreciate her standing up for women this way.

  • Sansa Squad

    just because you’ve never given a woman any kind of pleasure doesn’t mean you have take it out on a young woman in a happy, healthy, monogamous – and, sure, sexual (gasp!) – relationship with someone who respects her. grow up.

  • Sansa Squad

    exactly – every occasion SHE feels like it. there’s a difference between celebrating your own sexual agency and using someone else’s sexuality to demean them. I suggest reading what she says here very carefully (she’s also been addressing questions like yours on her twitter account, you might want to check those out if you need clarification) because she’s making some really important points.

  • Sansa Squad

    exactly – every occasion SHE feels like it. there’s a difference between celebrating your own sexual agency and using someone else’s sexuality to demean them. I suggest reading what she says here very carefully (she’s also been addressing questions like yours on her twitter account, you might want to check those out if you need clarification) because she’s making some really important points.

  • Sansa Squad

    exactly – every occasion SHE feels like it. there’s a difference between celebrating your own sexual agency and using someone else’s sexuality to demean them. I suggest reading what she says here very carefully (she’s also been addressing questions like yours on her twitter account, you might want to check those out if you need clarification) because she’s making some really important points.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    Give us a break already.

    Have you ever watched any of her videos ?

    If you think she is NOT trying to use her appearance to make a buck you are naive as hell.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    Give us a break already.

    Have you ever watched any of her videos ?

    If you think she is NOT trying to use her appearance to make a buck you are naive as hell.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    Give us a break already.

    Have you ever watched any of her videos ?

    If you think she is NOT trying to use her appearance to make a buck you are naive as hell.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    And you can’t understand that if you build an imagine people might GASP, buy into it and believe it ? Seriously ? What were you like when you were a teenager and you were watch music videos, you didn’t buy into it, you didn’t think have an unrealistic view of what the people were like in real life ? I can understand you arguing your point, I just think you’re doing a really crappy job of it. The guy you responded to doesn’t need to grow up, YOU NEED TO GROW UP.

    Wow, you prance around half naked and nobody takes you seriously. F’ing amazing.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    And you can’t understand that if you build an imagine people might GASP, buy into it and believe it ? Seriously ? What were you like when you were a teenager and you were watch music videos, you didn’t buy into it, you didn’t think have an unrealistic view of what the people were like in real life ? I can understand you arguing your point, I just think you’re doing a really crappy job of it. The guy you responded to doesn’t need to grow up, YOU NEED TO GROW UP.

    Wow, you prance around half naked and nobody takes you seriously. F’ing amazing.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    And you can’t understand that if you build an imagine people might GASP, buy into it and believe it ? Seriously ? What were you like when you were a teenager and you were watch music videos, you didn’t buy into it, you didn’t think have an unrealistic view of what the people were like in real life ? I can understand you arguing your point, I just think you’re doing a really crappy job of it. The guy you responded to doesn’t need to grow up, YOU NEED TO GROW UP.

    Wow, you prance around half naked and nobody takes you seriously. F’ing amazing.

  • gini crax corns

    go sell your PC SJW sob story somewhere else sister, ain’t buying it; she deserves what she gets, “time to lick a big fat donut” ariana, and say something ‘objective’ to the guy while you lick it slow and good… she’s a long way from america’s little sweetheart, “I hate Americans and I hate America…” uh huh we remember crybaby snowflake, now take your donut to your safespace and lick it good you dirty little thing

  • gini crax corns

    go sell your PC SJW sob story somewhere else sister, ain’t buying it; she deserves what she gets, “time to lick a big fat donut” ariana, and say something ‘objective’ to the guy while you lick it slow and good… she’s a long way from america’s little sweetheart, “I hate Americans and I hate America…” uh huh we remember crybaby snowflake, now take your donut to your safespace and lick it good you dirty little thing

  • Children Of The Revolution

    You’re not listening – it isn’t like she’s wearing a freaking SIGN that says “not today, I’m not in the mood to be a super star”. She makes her living showing off her body, she’s created an entire image out of it, it’s part of a multi-million dollar marketing campaign. And wow, she’s upset when people objectify her ?

    You’re just not being realistic.

    Have you ever watched those videos where people get interviewed on the street about basic questions like where is South America on this map, or who did the United States fight against in the revolutionary war, or “your mother has four children, the first she names north, the second south, the third east, what did she name the last one ?”, and people don’t know the answer ? Yet, you think every young boy in the country is supposed to know the difference between Ariana the sexy rock star, and Ariana the everyday girl who just wants to lick some donuts with her boyfriend ?

    Like I said, you’re just totally naive and unrealistic.

    This woman makes her living shaking her ass in front of the camera.

  • Sansa Squad

    lol if this is your reaction to someone’s attempt at constructing an informed dialogue around an issue you clearly don’t even care about, maybe you’re the “snowflake” who needs a “safespace”

  • Children Of The Revolution

    “Shut up.”

    You shut up you sanctimonious self-righteous bible thumper. You’re as bad as the religious right was in the 80′s, except your bible is all this feminist nonsense. I argued against it then, and I argue against it now, and there’s not jack *&^% you can do about it moralizer. It’s a free freaking country, and we’ll say whatever we want here, regardless of what you on your mighty throne thing about it, or rather “feel” about it, since you don’t really think this *&^% through.

  • Dee

    you sound dumb. i never said it was right for people to do it, i said its hypocritical of her to dress slutty and be shocked when people treat her as one. calm ur tits cuz u might blow a gasket over this plank shaped twat.

  • Children Of The Revolution

    Clearly a number of people on here feel the same way you do, I wonder why that is.

    Could it be that they dress provocatively and then whine about how they’re treated when they do ?

    It’s a kind of entitlement, you know. It’s like complaining because you’re rich and have to pay more taxes than everyone else does, nobody empathizes. People have WAY WORSE PROBLEMS than getting catcalls on the street. The median salary in my state is about 35k$us/year, let Ms. donut licker live on that a while and see what kind of problems she has.

  • http://www.therealgoat.com The King Goat™

    Well said.

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