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Chris Hardwick's Ex Jacinda Barrett Says Due Process Is Needed

Chris Hardwick's Ex Jacinda Barrett Says Due Process Is Needed

Chris Hardwick‘s former fiancee Jacinda Barrett is speaking out to defend her ex after he was accused of sexual assault and emotional abuse by former girlfriend Chloe Dykstra.

The 46-year-old television personality has lost several jobs amid the allegations and Jacinda says we must give due process to both the accuser and the accused.

“This past week I have watched someone I once loved and shared four years of my life with be publicly accused of misconduct and abuse, then swiftly fired and shunned,” Jacinda wrote on her Instagram account. “The accuser’s story bears no resemblance to the one I shared with him all those years ago, but what is of supreme importance here is that every woman and every man deserves a voice. Accuser and Accused. Everyone deserves to be heard. A rush to judgement denies the right to due process; the Metoo movement deserves due process.”

Jacinda also wrote, “Imagine you are sitting in a courtroom. A person walks in and in their own words reads a statement accusing you of wrongdoing. The punishment for this crime is to lose your livelihood, legacy, reputation and to be publicly shamed. Without examination of evidence, without due course the judge turns to everyone there and says what do you think? Guilty?”

Chris‘ wife Lydia Hearst has also spoken out to defend her husband amid the allegations.

Chloe‘s boyfriend Robert Kazinsky has shown support for her and says he has seen evidence of the allegations.

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  • Sansa Squad

    I totally get the impulse to defend someone you feel is being unfairly maligned, but to say “we don’t know the truth” when Chloe already *told* the truth, in pretty horrific detail, is irresponsible smoke-screening. We’re ALL technically making assumptions about people’s motivations, guilt or innocence, etc., but because the burden falls on the victim – the accuser – he gets the benefit of the doubt, and that doesn’t seem fair to me either. If Jacinda would’ve left it at “this behavior does not sound like the person I knew, but I feel it’s important to hear all sides,” this would be a perfectly fine statement. But to defend him when she doesn’t know the truth either feels like her inserting herself in a narrative to intentionally cloud the conversation.

  • Sansa Squad

    I totally get the impulse to defend someone you feel is being unfairly maligned, but to say “we don’t know the truth” when Chloe already *told* the truth, in pretty horrific detail, is irresponsible smoke-screening. We’re ALL technically making assumptions about people’s motivations, guilt or innocence, etc., but because the burden falls on the victim – the accuser – he gets the benefit of the doubt, and that doesn’t seem fair to me either. If Jacinda would’ve left it at “this behavior does not sound like the person I knew, but I feel it’s important to hear all sides,” this would be a perfectly fine statement. But to defend him when she doesn’t know the truth either feels like her inserting herself in a narrative to intentionally cloud the conversation.

  • Casey C

    while on the one hand trial via press and social media is all kinds of wrong, to compare one person’s experiece with someone with another’s is impossible and irresponsible. so he didn’t abuse her, okay, but that doesn’t mean he didn’t abuse someone else and to suggest otherwise is to essentially call the other woman a liar and a way of silencing her. JB and CH haven’t been together in a LONG time, she doesn’t know him anymore, so this was unnecessary

  • Casey C

    while on the one hand trial via press and social media is all kinds of wrong, to compare one person’s experiece with someone with another’s is impossible and irresponsible. so he didn’t abuse her, okay, but that doesn’t mean he didn’t abuse someone else and to suggest otherwise is to essentially call the other woman a liar and a way of silencing her. JB and CH haven’t been together in a LONG time, she doesn’t know him anymore, so this was unnecessary

  • Ash

    Well you don’t know the truth either but you’ve already picked Chloe’s side. Words alone are not and should not be enough to convict someone of any crime but that’s not what we are seeing today in this #metoo era. Jacinda clearly has heard all sides so she decided to tell her side of the story about the accused because she had a history with him. It says a lot about you when you are disappointed that Jacinda’s truth goes against Chloe’s narrative even though you don’t know the absolute truth of this case.

  • Ash

    Well you don’t know the truth either but you’ve already picked Chloe’s side. Words alone are not and should not be enough to convict someone of any crime but that’s not what we are seeing today in this #metoo era. Jacinda clearly has heard all sides so she decided to tell her side of the story about the accused because she had a history with him. It says a lot about you when you are disappointed that Jacinda’s truth goes against Chloe’s narrative even though you don’t know the absolute truth of this case.

  • http://www.noisetech-software.com/Home.html Steven Noyes

    How do you know Chloe *told* the truth? Based on reading many of her very old blog posts, watching several of her video blogs and reading her Medium write-up, I found her account not believable.

    I do believe, in hind site, she remembers it that way but that does not mean it WAS that way.

  • cuzjcacjo

    maybe he did, maybe he didn’t. but his behavior with one woman does not mean it was the same with every woman. perhaps this no-name Jacinda never experienced what other girlfriends did. every relationship is different and people bring out different things in one another

  • Wanda

    99 times out of 100, I will believe the woman because in most cases, when a woman manages to come forward with claims of abuse, she knows she will be accused of being a liar and a golddigger and worse and she is willing to face all of that to get her truth out there. But here’s the thing: men don’t just become rapists because of who they are dating – being a rapist is the result of a man having serious psychological issues and a need to humiliate women in the worst way to feel powerful. It’s not a thing that comes and goes depending on who you’re dating. I keep seeing comments from women saying “these other women can’t know how he treated her!” and to some extent that’s true – but if he didn’t rape the women he spent years of his life with before and after Chloe, it’s very hard to believe he could have simply turned into a vicious rapist for the 3 years he was with her, then “gotten over” it as soon as he dated the next woman.

  • Liderc

    You’re defending her without knowing the truth too, at least this woman knows Chris. She dated him and got engaged to him over four years, I’d trust her over pretty much anyone else.

    Chloe clearly had mental health problems prior to their relationship, she herself said she has been OCD her entire life and pulled her hair out for years, and that to me is a red flag.

    If she wasnt mentally well during their relationship, it’s very possible that she was seeing things much differently.

    As others have said, a person like she described doesn’t just one day start abusing people, it’s something they started a long time ago and got progressively worse.

    I’m not saying she’s lying, I believed her 100% when this first came out, but with the text messages and not a single other woman being able to describe what she went through, it’s just very uncommon.

    One thing we’ve always seen in the me-too movement is that after one woman comes out, many more speak their truth after.

    That has not happened here, quite the opposite. So I think there needs to be more investigation before this is wrapped up.

  • Sansa Squad

    She told “her” truth then. The point of the #MeToo movement (which Jacinda has clearly missed, hence my frustration with how she’s employed it here) is to give survivors an opportunity to share their stories without fear or shame, and to show people that this can happen to anyone, because abusers could be ANYONE – even those we know and love. I’m curious as to what part of her story you found unbelievable (I know enough abuse survivors to recognize patterns of behavior and her story seems pretty credible to me) but as I said, at the end of the day we’re all making assumptions. My biggest gripe is that Jacinda – and Lydia, his wife – have both had the audacity to namecheck Time’s Up and Me Too in their statements “of defense” when they are actively undermining those conversations with their responses to these allegations. They can defend him if they want, but to act like they’re doing so in the INTEREST of those movements is deliberate smokescreening.

  • Sansa Squad

    He may not have a clear pattern of abuse in relationships, but if all the former colleagues and employees of his who’ve come out with accounts of him being openly sexist, racist, etc. behind close doors are to be believed, he DOES have a pattern of hiding the ugly parts of himself around people who “matter” and taking it out in people he sees as beneath him. (As for her mental illness, I don’t feel comfortable passing any kind of judgment on her for that except to say that abusers tend to target malleable, vulnerable people and people who are “unstable” tend to be good “prey.”) As I said in my original comment, I fully realize we are ALL making assumptions in who we’re choosing to believe, but for Jacinda to act like her relationship with him is relevant to this conversation is misplaced and counterproductive.

  • Sansa Squad

    Has anyone been convicted of anything because of #MeToo? Last I checked, Harvey Weinstein – the white whale of this movement – pled not guilty and is awaiting a fair trial. Sure, the court of public opinion may find them guilty, but several accused celebrities have been investigated and not fired, or have had colleagues publicly rally around them and gotten to keep their jobs despite the accusations… For him to have been let go so swiftly would indicate that there were already problems behind the scenes and the sudden public outcry against him just gave them an excuse to cut ties, OR that they know something we don’t.

  • Sansa Squad

    Has anyone been convicted of anything because of #MeToo? Last I checked, Harvey Weinstein – the white whale of this movement – pled not guilty and is awaiting a fair trial. Sure, the court of public opinion may find them guilty, but several accused celebrities have been investigated and not fired, or have had colleagues publicly rally around them and gotten to keep their jobs despite the accusations… For him to have been let go so swiftly would indicate that there were already problems behind the scenes and the sudden public outcry against him just gave them an excuse to cut ties, OR that they know something we don’t.

  • Sansa Squad

    Has anyone been convicted of anything because of #MeToo? Last I checked, Harvey Weinstein – the white whale of this movement – pled not guilty and is awaiting a fair trial. Sure, the court of public opinion may find them guilty, but several accused celebrities have been investigated and not fired, or have had colleagues publicly rally around them and gotten to keep their jobs despite the accusations… For him to have been let go so swiftly would indicate that there were already problems behind the scenes and the sudden public outcry against him just gave them an excuse to cut ties, OR that they know something we don’t.

  • cuzjcacjo

    you seem to be seeing the word rape as only forceful/violent. perhaps in this instance it was not to that degree but still something forced upon her unwillingly. so, still rape, but not the type you seem to be defining. it could be like marital rape situations, where the man is not necessarily a psycho, but still forceful and demanding. we’ll never know… but any guy who does that has issues, totally agree with you on that.

  • cuzjcacjo

    you seem to be seeing the word rape as only forceful/violent. perhaps in this instance it was not to that degree but still something forced upon her unwillingly. so, still rape, but not the type you seem to be defining. it could be like marital rape situations, where the man is not necessarily a psycho, but still forceful and demanding. we’ll never know… but any guy who does that has issues, totally agree with you on that.

  • cuzjcacjo

    you seem to be seeing the word rape as only forceful/violent. perhaps in this instance it was not to that degree but still something forced upon her unwillingly. so, still rape, but not the type you seem to be defining. it could be like marital rape situations, where the man is not necessarily a psycho, but still forceful and demanding. we’ll never know… but any guy who does that has issues, totally agree with you on that.

  • Liderc

    How can you say her relationship evidence is misplaced and counter-productive, but opinions from past employees of his are relevant?

    I don’t think it can go both ways.

    Also, I wasn’t judging her mental health, she’s been very open and said her OCD was so debilitating that she stopped talking to her mother and father altogether.

    She said that in a video, along with her hair pulling condition.

    I do agree that it’s very common for abusers to go after easy targets though.

  • Liderc

    How can you say her relationship evidence is misplaced and counter-productive, but opinions from past employees of his are relevant?

    I don’t think it can go both ways.

    Also, I wasn’t judging her mental health, she’s been very open and said her OCD was so debilitating that she stopped talking to her mother and father altogether.

    She said that in a video, along with her hair pulling condition.

    I do agree that it’s very common for abusers to go after easy targets though.

  • Liderc

    How can you say her relationship evidence is misplaced and counter-productive, but opinions from past employees of his are relevant?

    I don’t think it can go both ways.

    Also, I wasn’t judging her mental health, she’s been very open and said her OCD was so debilitating that she stopped talking to her mother and father altogether.

    She said that in a video, along with her hair pulling condition.

    I do agree that it’s very common for abusers to go after easy targets though.

  • Sansa Squad

    Because him not abusing her in their relationship (which I fully believe) does not mean he is incapable of abusing someone else – which makes it irrelevant to this particular conversation; their accounts, on the other hand, (which I also believe) *do* mean that he’s good at compartmentalizing and hiding despicable things about himself, which happens to apply here.

  • Sansa Squad

    Because him not abusing her in their relationship (which I fully believe) does not mean he is incapable of abusing someone else – which makes it irrelevant to this particular conversation; their accounts, on the other hand, (which I also believe) *do* mean that he’s good at compartmentalizing and hiding despicable things about himself, which happens to apply here.

  • Sansa Squad

    Because him not abusing her in their relationship (which I fully believe) does not mean he is incapable of abusing someone else – which makes it irrelevant to this particular conversation; their accounts, on the other hand, (which I also believe) *do* mean that he’s good at compartmentalizing and hiding despicable things about himself, which happens to apply here.

  • Wanda

    um, marital rape IS forceful rape. It’s just like any other rape except the victim is married to their rapist. And if he’s being “forceful” in making a woman have sex against her will, that is rape as anyone (I would hope) would define it.

    But when your significant other wants sex and you really don’t feel like it and you just do it anyway to make him or her happy…that’s not rape. Nope. That’s an insensitive partner who you tell “No, I don’t feel like it”.

    If he physically forces you or has sex with you when you’re unconscious or incapacitated, that’s rape. If he doesn’t, you have not been raped.

    And sorry, but guys don’t just turn into rapists because of who they’re dating and then stop being rapists because they’re dating someone else.

  • Wanda

    um, marital rape IS forceful rape. It’s just like any other rape except the victim is married to their rapist. And if he’s being “forceful” in making a woman have sex against her will, that is rape as anyone (I would hope) would define it.

    But when your significant other wants sex and you really don’t feel like it and you just do it anyway to make him or her happy…that’s not rape. Nope. That’s an insensitive partner who you tell “No, I don’t feel like it”.

    If he physically forces you or has sex with you when you’re unconscious or incapacitated, that’s rape. If he doesn’t, you have not been raped.

    And sorry, but guys don’t just turn into rapists because of who they’re dating and then stop being rapists because they’re dating someone else.

  • Wanda

    um, marital rape IS forceful rape. It’s just like any other rape except the victim is married to their rapist. And if he’s being “forceful” in making a woman have sex against her will, that is rape as anyone (I would hope) would define it.

    But when your significant other wants sex and you really don’t feel like it and you just do it anyway to make him or her happy…that’s not rape. Nope. That’s an insensitive partner who you tell “No, I don’t feel like it”.

    If he physically forces you or has sex with you when you’re unconscious or incapacitated, that’s rape. If he doesn’t, you have not been raped.

    And sorry, but guys don’t just turn into rapists because of who they’re dating and then stop being rapists because they’re dating someone else.

  • Liderc

    I can understand that, but I guess I just take a person’s significant other much more seriously than I do an employee.

    We know bosses are often not the most well liked people, especially when you no longer work for them anymore it’s very easy to lay judgment.

    I have no dog in this fight, I didn’t know her before and I actually don’t like Chris, but seeing one blog post destroy a guy’s career in a day without any evidence to back it up got me thinking that this could happen to anyone.

    She said she has evidence, just release it and it can be over. I know you’ll say people will question her evidence, but hopefully you can see I’m a fairly rational person and would be more than willing to take any evidence very seriously and without judgement.

    If he had multiple women saying this about him like we’ve seen dozens of times in the me too Era I wouldn’t even look at this anymore, but we have one person’s word vs another’s. And I don’t know how we are supposed to just believe one person over the other with no evidence.

    Hopefully people understand that us guys aren’t looking to just defend the guy in these situations, I know I’ve had a woman lie about me before, and it almost got me killed.

    Months after I broke up with her, she told a group of her friends (mostly African Americans) that I abused her and said the n word on a daily basis and they almost beat me to death.(both of these things were untrue).

    I had broken up with her because she told me her father died when she missed a date with me one night. I called her mom to tell her how sorry I was to hear about her husband’s death, and found out her father hadn’t died (that was an awkward conversation) and she was sleeping with another guy.

    There are people that do this to hurt other people, I filed charges against her and she can’t come within 100 yards of me, so that’s what we need everyone to do, go make it official legally.

  • Liderc

    I can understand that, but I guess I just take a person’s significant other much more seriously than I do an employee.

    We know bosses are often not the most well liked people, especially when you no longer work for them anymore it’s very easy to lay judgment.

    I have no dog in this fight, I didn’t know her before and I actually don’t like Chris, but seeing one blog post destroy a guy’s career in a day without any evidence to back it up got me thinking that this could happen to anyone.

    She said she has evidence, just release it and it can be over. I know you’ll say people will question her evidence, but hopefully you can see I’m a fairly rational person and would be more than willing to take any evidence very seriously and without judgement.

    If he had multiple women saying this about him like we’ve seen dozens of times in the me too Era I wouldn’t even look at this anymore, but we have one person’s word vs another’s. And I don’t know how we are supposed to just believe one person over the other with no evidence.

    Hopefully people understand that us guys aren’t looking to just defend the guy in these situations, I know I’ve had a woman lie about me before, and it almost got me killed.

    Months after I broke up with her, she told a group of her friends (mostly African Americans) that I abused her and said the n word on a daily basis and they almost beat me to death.(both of these things were untrue).

    I had broken up with her because she told me her father died when she missed a date with me one night. I called her mom to tell her how sorry I was to hear about her husband’s death, and found out her father hadn’t died (that was an awkward conversation) and she was sleeping with another guy.

    There are people that do this to hurt other people, I filed charges against her and she can’t come within 100 yards of me, so that’s what we need everyone to do, go make it official legally.

  • Liderc

    I can understand that, but I guess I just take a person’s significant other much more seriously than I do an employee.

    We know bosses are often not the most well liked people, especially when you no longer work for them anymore it’s very easy to lay judgment.

    I have no dog in this fight, I didn’t know her before and I actually don’t like Chris, but seeing one blog post destroy a guy’s career in a day without any evidence to back it up got me thinking that this could happen to anyone.

    She said she has evidence, just release it and it can be over. I know you’ll say people will question her evidence, but hopefully you can see I’m a fairly rational person and would be more than willing to take any evidence very seriously and without judgement.

    If he had multiple women saying this about him like we’ve seen dozens of times in the me too Era I wouldn’t even look at this anymore, but we have one person’s word vs another’s. And I don’t know how we are supposed to just believe one person over the other with no evidence.

    Hopefully people understand that us guys aren’t looking to just defend the guy in these situations, I know I’ve had a woman lie about me before, and it almost got me killed.

    Months after I broke up with her, she told a group of her friends (mostly African Americans) that I abused her and said the n word on a daily basis and they almost beat me to death.(both of these things were untrue).

    I had broken up with her because she told me her father died when she missed a date with me one night. I called her mom to tell her how sorry I was to hear about her husband’s death, and found out her father hadn’t died (that was an awkward conversation) and she was sleeping with another guy.

    There are people that do this to hurt other people, I filed charges against her and she can’t come within 100 yards of me, so that’s what we need everyone to do, go make it official legally.

  • cuzjcacjo

    so, by your narrow logic, let’s say a guy hits girlfriend A once in a while… he is definitely going to hit new girlfriend B? men, and women, definitely change based upon who they are with, surely you are old enough to know that. the way you behave with one partner is often dissimilar to how you are with another. that is why you always hear people say “he/she was never like that with me.” just b/c he didn’t “rape” jacinda does not mean he didn’t do that to someone else. jacinda could also be lying. we have to consider that not everyone is honest about what happens in a relationship.maybe she doesn’t want the world to think that happened to her. we can’t know what happens to these peeps in their relationship or bedrooms.

  • cuzjcacjo

    so, by your narrow logic, let’s say a guy hits girlfriend A once in a while… he is definitely going to hit new girlfriend B? men, and women, definitely change based upon who they are with, surely you are old enough to know that. the way you behave with one partner is often dissimilar to how you are with another. that is why you always hear people say “he/she was never like that with me.” just b/c he didn’t “rape” jacinda does not mean he didn’t do that to someone else. jacinda could also be lying. we have to consider that not everyone is honest about what happens in a relationship.maybe she doesn’t want the world to think that happened to her. we can’t know what happens to these peeps in their relationship or bedrooms.

  • cuzjcacjo

    so, by your narrow logic, let’s say a guy hits girlfriend A once in a while… he is definitely going to hit new girlfriend B? men, and women, definitely change based upon who they are with, surely you are old enough to know that. the way you behave with one partner is often dissimilar to how you are with another. that is why you always hear people say “he/she was never like that with me.” just b/c he didn’t “rape” jacinda does not mean he didn’t do that to someone else. jacinda could also be lying. we have to consider that not everyone is honest about what happens in a relationship.maybe she doesn’t want the world to think that happened to her. we can’t know what happens to these peeps in their relationship or bedrooms.

  • Sansa Squad

    Yikes! Well, first of all, sorry for what happened to you. And I can definitely appreciate where you’re coming from. To your point about believing the employees, I do think the fact that he was let go from his job(s) so quickly is an indicator that they were likely already aware of some pretty serious issues behind the scenes, and the public turning on him (more so than what Chloe actually wrote) just gave them an excuse to let him go. Swift action like that reminds me of how quick The Weinstein Company was to cut ties with Harvey – and knowing what we know about THAT situation now, I just think it’s telling.

  • Sansa Squad

    Yikes! Well, first of all, sorry for what happened to you. And I can definitely appreciate where you’re coming from. To your point about believing the employees, I do think the fact that he was let go from his job(s) so quickly is an indicator that they were likely already aware of some pretty serious issues behind the scenes, and the public turning on him (more so than what Chloe actually wrote) just gave them an excuse to let him go. Swift action like that reminds me of how quick The Weinstein Company was to cut ties with Harvey – and knowing what we know about THAT situation now, I just think it’s telling.

  • Wanda

    I am 50 years old and so yes, I am old enough to know quite a lot. I’ve lived a lot, I’ve seen a lot, I’ve had good relationships and lousy ones, I’ve survived things you couldn’t imagine.

    And I have never, ever, seen a man with a history of being respectful to the women he had long-term relationships with suddenly become a serial rapist with one woman, then revert to being decent to women again when they broke up. Rape is an act of violence, anger and humiliation, and men who are driven to do it to a partner regularly have a sickness they can’t just stop. It is not something a man just decides to start doing one day, then decides to stop doing another.

    Because people do not in fact become different people when they date someone new. I’m old enough to know that’s bull. People alter their personalities during the “honeymoon” phase for the first few months, and then who they really are always comes out. Always.

    And no, dear, men who hit and beat women also don’t just do it to one woman for the 3 years they dated her in the middle of their 25-year dating history. If you know a man who has hit a woman in the past, you’d better believe he’s eventually going to hit you or any other woman he dates, too, and steer clear.

  • Liderc

    The swift action is definitely telling. Btw, glad we were able to have a conversation about this without it devoliving into a yelling match.

    Gives me hope that there are other sane people out there heh. So thank you for that, and I wish you the best.

  • Liderc

    The swift action is definitely telling. Btw, glad we were able to have a conversation about this without it devoliving into a yelling match.

    Gives me hope that there are other sane people out there heh. So thank you for that, and I wish you the best.