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Aziz Ansari Addresses Sexual Misconduct Allegation

Aziz Ansari Addresses Sexual Misconduct Allegation

Last year, Aziz Ansari was accused of sexual misconduct and now he’s extensively speaking about the allegations.

If you don’t know, Aziz released a brief statement at the time, but hasn’t spoken about the accusations since.

“There were times I felt really upset and humiliated and embarrassed, and ultimately I just felt terrible this person felt this way,” Aziz said on Monday (February 11) at his comedy show in New York City. “But you know, after a year, how I feel about it is, I hope it was a step forward. It made me think about a lot, and I hope I’ve become a better person.”

He continued, “If that has made not just me but other guys think about this, and just be more thoughtful and aware and willing to go that extra mile, and make sure someone else is comfortable in that moment, that’s a good thing.”

“And I think it also just gave me perspective on my life,” Aziz added. “There was a moment where I was scared that I’d never be able to do this again.”

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  • laura

    It’s not “going that extra mile”, it’s simply respecting consent.

  • Moe Grayson

    He is not funny at all! His voice is soooooooooo irritating!

  • iheartmonsterpussy

    so, we’re just going to go at this guy again and not try to respect his journey to become a better man? he didn’t harvey weinstein anyone and if everyone is black and white, then fuck off because god knows you and i both have done way worse than be a pushy date.

  • dee

    his sexual misconduct, wasnt even a sexual misconduct. he was just a stereotypical horndog who desperately wanted a BJ. his date couldve said no and been like nah im not sucking your tiny penis, instead she reluctantly agreed to give him one. and just because you didnt enjoy giving head doesnt mean you didnt consent to it in the first place. what are we even taking about here….?? that was literally the worst allegation i ever had to read. she totally took away from other women who actually went through a tough experience. next.

  • Sansa Squad

    Making the distinction that verbal consent is a requirement and not some extra polite gesture is not “going at” him – it’s a necessary clarification on what he seems to be saying (or trying to). His whole point is that what he did *was* wrong – whether he realized it at the time or not – but he’s learned from it and wants others to learn from it too. That’s great! But if he’s really going to become a better man and others are actually going to learn, people need to understand this basic fact.

  • Sansa Squad

    The sad thing about this is that Aziz – and the editor(s) of that god-awful article – had the opportunity to turn his behavior (which, though typical, still wasn’t acceptable) into a teachable moment for others about the necessity of verbal consent… And yet no one did. All babe.net cared about was sensationalizing the story for clicks, and that clearly put him on the defensive, so now he’s just trying to get past it instead of actually work through it. His behavior is so much more common than say, a Weinstein situation, that it’s almost a MORE important conversation to have because it affects so many more people. This whole thing seems to have hit TOO close to home for so many people (people who recognize his behavior in themselves, and people this has happened to who’ve suppressed their own feelings of violation/trauma) so no one wants to have an honest conversation about it. I’m glad he’s FINALLY saying something, but I think it would be helpful if he explained more clearly *why* what he did was wrong so people didn’t just continue to shrug it off.

  • Sansa Squad

    Interesting how he doesn’t seem to believe she lied or did anything wrong by coming forward, yet she still got doxxed by psychotic internet trolls for sharing what happened to her… Allegations *can* ruin lives I guess, just not the ones people seem to think!

  • laura

    He might be a stereotypical horndog, but that doesn’t make it ok. What he did was obviously not as serious as what Weinstein did, but I find it so scary that most men (even those considered good and normal) simply think that women are there at their disposal. Most men don’t act violently on it, but a lot of men don’t realize that even the most feeble “no” is a NO. They think it’s an invitation to insist.
    And to those who say “she could have been louder”, “she could have been explicit”, what happens in these situations is that you’re scared, you freeze, you don’t believe that this is happening to you till the last moment, because you can’t believe that he isn’t a good guy, especially if he’s a public figure commonly known for being the goofy and cute dork.
    The more it goes on, the scarier it gets, and the more you freeze.

  • laura

    Exactly, I was making that distinction. Respecting consent is the foundation of every human relationship, it’s not “going the extra mile”, it’s not being particularly kind.
    Also, he didn’t really apologize. That’s the usual fake apology, kind of “I’m sorry you felt hurt”, which implies “you’re hypersensitive, so you overreacted, I’m sorry but it’s not my fault”.
    A real apology is “I apologize for my behavior”, not “I’m sorry you felt that way”, or “I’m sorry you felt offended”. In the first sentence you take the blame, in the second and third ones you place the blame on the recipient and imply that you’re such a kind person for understanding that they felt bad.

  • laura

    It’s hypocritical and immature.

  • dee

    Im definitely not disagreeing with you, i definitely think there SHOULD be a conversation about ”social cues”.

    Aziz is a total dick for not seeing that this girl didnt wanna suck his dick. Social cues, are of course just as important, but in this context i feel like it really is about the word ”consent’, this whole #metoo movement is about consent and in my opinion (from reading her article of how her date went down, from her perspective) she gave her consent when she agreed to go on date with him she gave her consent when she agreed to go to his apartment (because lets be honest #1 he’s famous, #2 lets not pretend they went back upstairs to watch Disney movies here…) she gave her consent when agreed to make out with him and last gave her consent when she agreed to do whatever else with him.

    …..He might’ve persuaded her to do something she didnt really want to do (which…yes it SUCKS, so i totally get your point) but she agreed to it , therefore that to me is a consentual date.
    Im definitely not defending Aziz’s behavior on this and how he handled this GOD AWFUL date. Because i honestly dont understand how anyone cant see when someone is just NOT THAT INTO YOU. Like your shit aint that hot. But to put him on blast (and categorize him with the harveys and the louis ck’s) for having a bad date? I dont know? It just wasn’t warranted to me, and thats essentially what i got from reading this article.

  • laura

    I see your point, but if I remember well she didn’t exactly agree to do something sexual (whatever that may have been). She pushed him away, which he took as a game, an invitation to insist. You can agree to go out with someone, and even to go to his place for drinks, without wanting to suck his d*ck or have sex. You can even g to his place to see how that makes you feel and than decide you don’t like it and won’t do anything with him.
    And honestly, even in the most swept away sexual moment, you do realize whether the other person wants to do it or not. You can’t say you don’t understand it, if the other person is resisting it’s not hard to tell.
    If you don’t understand that the other person isn’t liking it at all and that you’re pushing them, then maybe you don’t have the emotional maturity to have sex.
    She pushed him away and he made her do it.

  • laura

    What I’m saying is: I have a problem with this frame of mind, which is sadly very usual among many man. Even the most feeble “no”, or resistance, means that the other person doesn’t want to do something, especially if it is a first date and you don’t know each other well.
    I think there should be proper education on this.