Shailene Woodley Gets Candid About Intimacy, Tells Fans How to Deal with Bad Sex

Shailene Woodley is sharing some candid details about her sex life and how she’s had bad sex in more than one relationship.

The 29-year-old Divergent actress wrote a column for Leo’s “Ask Her” section. She responded to a question from a reader that asked, “From a woman’s perspective, if the sex is not great but the relationship is thriving, do you call it quits or work on it?”

Shailene definitely was able to relate to the reader.

“Oy … I have been here. And to be quite honest, it has happened more than once in my life. Listen, I hope for all our sakes that we have had the kind of sex that leaves us f–king hungry and full all at once,” Shailene started off the column. “Where the beginning has no end, and the end has no beginning. Where every. single. primal. instinct. had its way … how it wanted it, where it wanted it, when it wanted it. Because that sh-t is the real magic. It’s an alchemy our minds cannot create. And it is … everything.”

Shailene then offered some advice from her perspective. She said, “All I can say is, from my perspective as a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to say it, honesty and transparency are everything. If you don’t feel safe in communication with your partner, then chances are, you may never be able to cultivate a truly connective sex life. And, if you do feel safe, then talk about your needs. Whether they are being met or not. Ask your partner about theirs.”

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“‘Bad sex,’ in my opinion, is simply two people who haven’t quite found the language that speaks to their unique lives together yet. Or, two people who don’t know how to be deeply vulnerable with one another. That shit can take time. And although you occasionally and very rarely do meet someone whom you spontaneously sexually combust with—most of the time, sex is a lesson in true intimacy,” Shailene added.

Shailene also told fans to not be afraid to tell their partner what they want.

“Don’t be afraid to say what you really want. The most turned on I have ever been has been when lovers told me exactly what they wanted me to do, or what their needs were. So don’t be shy. Chances are, that dirty little mind of yours in there is just as naughty as the mind of your partners … but maybe neither of you have ever felt like you’ve known how to share those intimacies with one another. The more surrendered we can be to the discoveries we make with a lover, the better and more delicious our physical connection becomes,” she said.

Read the full column at LeoEdit.com.