Katie Maloney Reveals What Led to Her Split from Tom Schwartz

Katie Maloney is getting candid about her split from Tom Schwartz.

The 35-year-old Vanderpump Rules star revealed what led the pair to go their separate ways during an episode of her podcast, You’re Gonna Love Me, on Friday (March 18).

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Katie began by thanking fans for their support and said, “I know [for] some people [it] may seem like a shock, or it may seem like an abrupt thing, but for us it’s not like we just decided this this week or yesterday or the day before.”

“There wasn’t some kind of crazy incident that happened, there wasn’t some crazy fight that resulted in this,” she explained, speaking through tears. “It was my decision, which was probably the hardest and most painful decision I’ve ever had to make.”

“The best and only way I can describe it is just like waking up inside of my life and having this voice that just became louder and louder, and just events in my life and our relationship coming into focus and feeling the weight of them on me,” the reality star continued.

Katie admitted that she wanted to “deny” and “push” the negative thoughts about her relationship with Tom “out of my head,” adding: “I love Tom, we built a life together, and he was my person and I wanted to be him with forever. But ultimately, I just wasn’t happy.”

But after sitting with her thoughts, she found the all the emotions she was experiencing “didn’t stop.”

“It just became more clear, and I could just no longer deny it,” she said. “There were so many happy moments, even day to day. I love being with him, but ultimately, I was just not fulfilled.”

“And there’s other things that maybe one day I can talk about, but I don’t really want to get into all that at the moment,” Katie added. “But I just realized that the choice I had to make was to just open up and tell him how I was feeling.”

She went on to say that it was extremely challenging to tell Tom about her decision. “It was the hardest, hardest thing to do,” she said. “The hardest thing to tell him, because I knew it was gonna crush him.”

“I had to really just start prioritizing myself and my happiness as well,” she noted. “It just needed to happen.”

“It got to a point where it felt like I was going to burst. For months it was building up,” Katie continued. “I felt disconnected, I felt like I was drifted away further and further, I felt like I was drifting. And I couldn’t stop it.”

She also shared that she was still living with Tom in their home and trying to navigate their new relationship.

“We do still live together in our house, and we’re just trying to navigate these steps together and really work on becoming friends in that sense,” she explained. “Obviously we have the same friends and trying to hang out in a group together going through this and not making it awkward for anyone and not make anyone choose sides — that’s been important to us.”

The pair confirmed their split in separate Instagram posts on Tuesday and Tom recently told reporters that he blames himself for their breakup.