'13 Reasons Why' Star Tommy Dorfman Reveals She's Engaged

Tommy Dorfman just announced some big news – she’s engaged!

The 13 Reasons Why actor shared the news during an appearance on Rachel Bilson‘s Broad Ideas podcast, but didn’t say much about her fiancée.

The only details Tommy offered up about her betrothed was that she is a “cis woman” and referred to her as “just a gay girl.”

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Tommy further opened up about their relationship, and revealed that she “knew I was interested in women in a way that I hadn’t really been aware of since high school.”

“I had this unresolved, unexplored thing. I was like, ‘This is the year that I’m gonna go on some dates with girls and feel that out again, and not feel ashamed about it.’”

Tommy added that she had been scared to share that she was attracted to women because she felt like she had safe friendships with women her whole life and didn’t really want that to change.

“Because they thought of me as a gay man, they were like, ‘Oh, like you’re the safest person in the world.’ And then suddenly, I transition and I become a little bit more threatening, in my head,” she says.

Tommy says that her fiancée is the first woman she has been with in a “very long time,” calling the experience “very affirming.”

“It’s safe. Also not safe and like being in love is so scary,” she shared. “So uncomfortable, so painful. All the universal feelings of being in love that are probably the same.”

Tommy was previously married to Peter Zurkuhlen.