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Ben Affleck Talks Blake Lively in 'Details' October 2012

Ben Affleck Talks Blake Lively in 'Details' October 2012

Ben Affleck looks handsome on the cover of Details magazine’s October 2012 issue.

Here is what the 40-year-old Argo actor/director had to share with the mag:

On touring around Boston with Blake Lively: “When I was doing The Town, I’d tour the actors around Boston. I was with Blake, and I saw Matt [Damon]‘s childhood home. And I said, “Oh yeah, that’s where Matt grew up.” And she said, “Who?” And I said, “Matt Damon.” And she said, “Oh my God! You know Jason Bourne?!” She really didn’t know. And I thought, “There it is. The first age of people who are adults who missed the whole Matt and Ben propaganda campaign!” Mostly, it just made me feel old.”

On balancing work and family: “Absolutely. Anytime you think, “I’m wasting my time here,” the first thought you have is “I could go home and be with my kids.” Now, you may go home and be with your kids and very quickly start thinking, “I wonder what’s on the work front?” Because running around after three kids is very trying. Now everything has to compete with being with my family. I don’t want to be a stay-at-home dad. Work is very important to me. I like to work. So does my wife. But I need my work to mean something to me in order for me to not be home with them.”

On Gigli and Jennifer Lopez: “In our culture, we get very much into short- handing people. And I got shorthanded as That Guy: Jennifer Lopez, movies bombed, therefore he must be a sort of thoughtless dilettante, solipsistic consumer blah blah blah. It’s hard to shake those sort of narratives. If you were looking at that one-liner on me in 2003, which was definitely the annus horribilis [laughs] of my life. I made a bunch of movies that didn’t work. I was ending up in the tabloids. I don’t know what the lesson is, except that you just have to find your compass… People bring up 2003, and I get it. Jennifer Lopez, and Gigli, and all this shit just kind of blew up. But, you know, in 2003, Barack Obama was a state senator in Illinois! Okay?”

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  • Tina

    I find it weird that JLO never talks about him, like EVER!

  • Jen

    So he had to mention Blake … Guess he’s not over her.

  • lauren

    was there rumors that he had a fling with her?

  • Francesca

    @lauren: pretty much

  • Melissa

    In every interview I have seen with Ben, he comes across as very intelligent and thoughtful. I think he is a really great director, I was blown away by Gone Baby Gone. (and I think he talks about Jlo in interviews because they ASK him about her.)

  • Lena

    Who cares?

  • rio

    damn ben looks so damn sexy… i mean just google kelsnetwork

  • snl

    i think they shared that conversation in matt’s childhood home bed.

  • andy

    omg… cant believe blake didnt know about the bromance… everybody knows that !!

  • Telling it Like He Sees It!

    He looks really hot! Some guys start to look extremely manly and gorgeous as they get older. Eric Dane is another example. And LOL@ Ben calling out “Jenny from the Blocks” sh.itty movie career!

  • n

    dilettante – anyone else immediately go to Bring it On?! every time…bring on the tyros, the neophytes and the dilettante. SATs are over Ben!

  • df

    You forgot this quote, which says a lot about his lack of presence at home….

    “I am not very present in the rest of my life. My wife’s very patient. She does everything,” he shares. “If I have time, I try to spend time with the kids, even if just to be a physical presence, the bath, whatever.”

    But even in the midst of his brood’s bathtime, Affleck is the first to admit his mind is often elsewhere. “My mind’s always going, ‘How are we going to light that show tomorrow? What’s the master shot for that scene? Is there even going to be a master?’” he says.

    He is basically saying his career is more important than his family and that he spends more time working than with them! He & Jen do not have an equal partnership. Easy to beleive considering she is almost always photographed alone with the kids.

  • Mile12

    just as Peter explained I am taken by surprise that a mom able to earn $6724 in 1 month on the internet. have you seen this site (Click on menu Home more information)

  • df


    Then he should say No comment! Duh. No one forced him to talk about her.

  • ace11

    It’s funny how he still talks about J-Lo

    betcha he regrets not marrying her and having kids

    Garner is so Blah

  • Lailah

    Really don’t see the big deal. So they asked him about Jlo? Who cares? He can say what he wants. It was his life. He lived it. Really don’t see why people are shaken up over it.

  • Karina


    Read the question before reacting to his answer!! He said that when he’s shooting a movie he’s directing, say Argo (which was only 2/3 months last yr), he is always thinking about the movie and spends whatever time he has with his kids even if it was just physical because he doesn’t want to be absent from their lives. He made that comment about presence while shooting, not all yr long. And if you look at the archive on JJ you’ll find pics of him hanging out with his kids every sat/sun while he was shooting last fall(I think it was sept-mid November)

  • LOL

    Geez JJ. He talks more about J-Lo – y’know his fiance – at one time the most famous couple in the world than Blake. That Blake/Bourne tale he has repeated ad nauseum. Talk about scandal mongering.
    @12 I agree. I found that the MOST interesting quote and kinda sad.

  • http://gossip gossip

    Blake’s nudie pics were for Ben

  • Yohji

    I feel embarrassed for Blake with the Damon/Affleck story. And she works in the film industry? Smh.

  • AMY

    I don’t like dudes with hairy chests, but I find his strangley attractive ever since Daredevil…

  • mya

    she didn’t know??? was she raised in a tree house? i’m 22 and i know about the matt/ben love affair.

    how about a little less clueless & a little more dogma

  • She Stinks!

    He’s thrilled to be rid of that low class no talent uneducated self absorbed trash from Castle Hill. The JHO Bag quote is very telling. Ben did the right thing by kicking that trash to the curb.

  • wondering

    Ben does not sound very happy to me. He has it all with a very good life right now, but it seems to me it does not make him either content or satisfied. I hope he is able to keep his family together but I have my doubts as it appears that JG is pulling his weight and hers most of the time. His priority in his life is his career is what I am reading. I see more than likely heartache for JG and their kids in the future.

    This is just my opinion and I may be 100% wrong but I don’t think so.

    And he needs to shut up about JLO, he choose his terrible films, she did not.

  • df

    @She Stinks!:

    Actually, JLo kicked him to the curb because he has quite the addiction to strippers. Jen just chooses to turn a blind eye & will stay with him until there is photographic proof of him stepping out on her.

    Sounds like Jen does all the work while he shows up once in a while. Expect lots of photo ops before Argo comes out!

  • sky

    i always thought he was an a** and after reading his comments about his family, I ain’t wrong.

  • Melissa B

    I’m Blake’s age & know who ‘Matt & Ben’ are…..I vaguely remember all the ‘Good will Hunting’ hoopla. I was young, but I watched all the Award shows….

  • ANON

    Alas, Blake being Blake – you can’t hate her for it, she’s a G and men are idiotic enough to buy what she’s selling. There is not a person on this planet who is aware of Ben Affleck, and does not know that he and Matt Damon are basically brothers……I mean people in the freakin Egyptian desert know that! Ridiculous…. I ain’t mad at ya Blake… Ben, Leo and now Ryan – go girl!

  • MK

    @df u realllllyyy need to get a life and keave them alone! no one knows their life except for them, unless u were one of the strippers u claim he bangs…

  • anon

    @andy: Blake’s an idiot. That’s why she didn’t know.

  • Melissa B

    @ANON: She is a G isn’t she!!!

  • anon

    @sky: He gets bored and tired running around after 3 kids all day every day, and wonders what interesting, new projects there are out there for him to work on. Who wouldn’t? “I need my work to mean something to me in order for me to not be home with them,” basically implies he won’t just go off and do a project to get away from his family; he needs for that movie to actually be worth spending time away from his family. Doesn’t sound like an assh*le to me.

  • MK

    Shame on Blake! I’m 16 and I have known Matt & Ben for years. How old is she??

  • @33

    Shame? I’m a year older than Blake and I’m still learning stuff on pop culture everyday. I also have NOT read 50 shades of grey. Is there some law that everyone should know which film won the most Oscars? which actresses have the highest bank e.t.c It ain’t that serious.

  • Sarah.

    Seriously, Blake didn’t knew Ben and Matt knew each other?! How can you not know that.. :o

  • @df

    He had/has an addiction to strippers. But even after that J-Lo did not kick him to the curb. Ben dumped her. Despite her 2 day follow up marriage to Marc Anthony she still aches to hear Ben’s name.

  • abel

    @Tina: probably because ben was more affected with that relationship then jlo was he damn near almost lost his career and mind over that terrible relationship and media presence

  • @abel

    Maybe she had less to lose but J-Lo was probably more broken than Ben. Ben has had a marvellous second act career so he likely has to reference it to explain it away. But despite J-Lo’s tough Bronx persona she was DEVASTATED at the split. As was her mother.

  • Anne

    Great interview. Ben looks a very smart guy. And i wish before some ppl writ bullsh*t they should read the interview, not quotes totally out of context

    @MK: You know, that JLO fans is sick… someone should call the psychiatrist. i feel sorry for that person

  • I’ve always thought they broke up because he couldn’t handle the press attention they got. Ifnhe really loved her or had a stronger back bone he would’ve stuck it out with her. She was too good for him. Now he has an oatmeal bland stepford wife.

  • Looselipz

    Pompous jerk…got lucky in Hollywood…big head..

  • jpa

    o come on! ben and matt are the greatest hollywood story ever. how could you not know?

  • Jen

    I remember that Ben Left Jlo for Garner.
    Smart move as garner is beautiful.
    Ben is content…..and hot.

  • jlo’s little Hoho

    Actually jan 1 2004 they broke up …And every time he gets publicity
    He gets Jlo.. Why not ask Tom Cruise about the Porno movie he made
    With Nicole ..that bombed too. he’ll no one but Ben get Jlo and Gigli
    And Brad and Julette Lewis in California movie it tanked ask him today
    About it. Face it he makes a great film follows it to the awards The Town
    Jeremy Renner got nominated for all 3 awards. And Gone Baby Gone
    Followed those with TANK movies.. Always will. Argo is a middle Eastern movie and it will Tank too! Online gambling movie he should follow Matt
    Damon and taken the role in The Great Gatsby aka a great role

  • groundcontrol

    Not a particular fan of either JLo or Ben but she has been very gracious in her words about him and he has never been. He handled that very badly and like a heel. No one deserves that.

    He does behave like an azz often. I guess Jennifer G. decided to stop on trading up with her men. With her history with men she was no prize bit she must have felt Ben was a bigger prize so she pulled the baby trick and got him.

    I have no idea if they are happy or not. I hope they are.

    BUT LOL! Ben comparing himself to Obama. give me a break.

  • KissThis

    Kind of odd that he had to mention Blake. I wonder what Jennifer thinks about that? I’m sure she’s heard the rumors.

  • kate

    I don’t think there’s anything real wrong with what he said. The Blake Lively comment is funny, because it makes her sound so dumb. Like someof you mentioned on here.. we’re either the same age as her , maybe even younger and we know about Matt and Ben! .. and she’s an actress in could she not know? ..the career comment, okay I get it, he’s saying he loves to work and as of recent he’s making great movies, and is a fantastic director. Just because you’re a parent doesn’t mean you’re a slave to your children. People do like to work and have fun outside their family home. …as for JLO..umm whatever. I think he knows he bombed real hard with that. He was in every tabloid because of his relationship with her. He is an advocate against paparazzi .. and considers his privacy very important. Its pretty obvious he doesn’t have nice thoughts of the time spent his JLO. Just my opinion. Y’all have a good day! :P

  • Anna

    Ben , i can not understood you how you were makink out with the wore jenni lopez. She is ugly. She has been with 10 men in intimacy situation for less. She has big hole in there. What kind of pleasure she can feeld under this situation?

  • http://alexhere12 arnie

    “I need my work to mean something to me in order for me to not be home with them,” basically implies he won’t just go off and do a project to get away from his family”, means that he won’t be working away from his family if it’s not something so special to him. That means he’s having to spend quality time with his family..And JARED your title is quite misleading, as if the whole page was dedicated to BLAKE Live when in fact he just mention her name once. Are you implying something? Do tell…..just try reading the whole interview in Details.

  • mel

    the comment about his kids is.. weird — i was raised by my father and couldn’t imagine him talking like that
    ..and why even talk about blake? the guy is either just being funny or he’s getting away with something