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Aziz Ansari Accused of Sexual Misconduct

Aziz Ansari Accused of Sexual Misconduct

A 23-year-old woman is coming forward and accusing of Aziz Ansari of sexually assaulting her in his New York City apartment. She says they met at the Emmys after party.

In a story told to Babe, the woman, who is remaining anonymous, says the 34-year-old Master of None comedian, who just won a Golden Globe for his work on the show, made several advances and ignored her non-verbal clues.

“The move he kept doing was taking his two fingers in a V-shape and putting them in my mouth, in my throat to wet his fingers, because the moment he’d stick his fingers in my throat he’d go straight for my vagina and try to finger me,” the woman explained.

The woman continued that she told him she wanted to slow things down.

“He said, ‘Oh, of course, it’s only fun if we’re both having fun.’ The response was technically very sweet and acknowledging the fact that I was very uncomfortable. Verbally, in that moment, he acknowledged that I needed to take it slow. Then he said, ‘Let’s just chill over here on the couch,’” she continued. “He sat back and pointed to his penis and motioned for me to go down on him. And I did. I think I just felt really pressured. It was literally the most unexpected thing I thought would happen at that moment because I told him I was uncomfortable.”

Later, he led her from his couch to a different part of the apartment.

“I just remember looking in the mirror and seeing him behind me. He was very much caught up in the moment and I obviously very much wasn’t…After he bent me over is when I stood up and said no, I don’t think I’m ready to do this, I really don’t think I’m going to do this. And he said, ‘How about we just chill, but this time with our clothes on?’” she said.

She then says they started watching an episode of Seinfeld, when he starting making advances again.

You can see a screenshot of the text she sent to Aziz after she left.

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  • persononhere

    ok then. but did she ever say an actual no? he was supposed to get clues and cues???? yeah, that’ll work….

  • Try1

    “He sat back and pointed to his penis and motioned for me to go down on him. And I did. I think I just felt really pressured.” So it was not sexual assault???

  • cutitout

    A guy simply pointing at his crotch is enough “pressure” to make you ….. Somebody is not ready to be dating adult men yet. He thought it was a one night stand an you thought it was the beginning of a real relationship.

    Guess no one ever told you that once you GO HOME with someone after a FIRST date, most people assume you want to be intimate……And also, why is this something that needed to be shared with the world? The text and simply not choosing to go out with him again because you have different interest should have been enough.

    We really have to educate this new generation of girls on dating and the do’s and don’ts and how to truly read situations as well recognized how their behavior is interpreted by others.

  • cutitout

    Have you not gotten the memo yet? Feeling the least bit pressured or obligated to do anything sexual and going through with it reluctantly is now assault or at least something that results in a public shaming.

  • Vix

    She should have left. She had that choice and choose not to leave.

  • Maria M.

    This woman is shameless piece of trash! Giving non-verbal clues instead of saying she doesn’t want to have sex and leaving. The only thing that made her feel uncomfortable is when she realized in the morning that he will never call her again. Vindictive slut!

  • Gina

    Regret because you weren’t assertive is not sexual assault.

  • HorrorBiz606

    She blew him 3 times. This should pretty much be /end of story

  • Benny Ehud

    Basically, they went on a date, and he tried to have sex with her.

  • M9365

    This whole sexual assault stuff is only going to get worse. There will always be horrible people in this world, but if you continually tell women they are victims, treat them like victims, they will act like victims. And then the media will make money of these “victims”

    Start teaching girls/women to have a spine and stop doing this stuff because they feel “pressured” when really they are just sad people who want others to like them. Address the REAL problem.

  • LittlePaperStars

    There are points in her account, when absolutely, yes, he totally crossed the line. And no, she absolutely shouldn’t have felt pressured, obligated or anything else to do something she didn’t want to do. However, she comments that she thought the dinner was rushed, if that made her feel odd, don’t go back to his apartment. If when he kissed her and tried to undress her, she felt it was going too quickly, say no firmly and when he clearly continued to try things, leave. I get that some women feel they can;t and no one should be victim shamed, or feel like they can’t come forward because in the moment they couldn;t find it in them to speak up. However, at some point, us women need to take responsibility for ourselves. If we don;t like something in the moment, we need to say no clearly and firmly, just pulling away probably should be enough but it’s obviously not. If we don;t like a situation we need to get up and leave. It’s a horribly grey area, when you’ve been flirting with someone, gone on a date and gone back to theirs and then things take an odd turn and you do things despite being unhappy about it. I don;t think it was necessarily her fault, but I do think she allowed the situation of progress and go on for longer than she needed to

  • Yeezus_chri5t

    FAKE NEWS

  • Kim

    Sexual assault??? From reading her story he listened to her whenever she said she wanted to take it slow. He pointed at his d*ck and she sort of felt pressured to give him a blow job?? He may very well not have noticed that she didnt really wanted to do this if she did not hinted at this in any way. These are the kind of fake sexual assault stories that are damaging the real stories and the movement that is finally happening. Women like her p*ss me off!

  • Sansa Squad

    Consent is legally defined as the presence of yes, not the absence of no. Coercion is not consent.

  • Sansa Squad

    She felt coerced. She did not give verbal consent. Hopefully this story can be a teaching moment for people about the complexities of this issue.

  • Sansa Squad

    The responses to this story have been v disheartening. There have been rumblings that stuff was going to come out about Aziz since late November, but there’s been talk about him in comedy circles for YEARS. This is only the tip of the iceberg so I hope when/if the rest of it comes to light people aren’t so quick to write his behavior off as an innocent mistake.

  • Sansa Squad

    As a victim of “real” sexual assault I can tell you the only thing I find damaging and hurtful is when women come forward to share their stories and explicitly say they felt violated and others tell them “No, you weren’t.” Consent is a complicated issue but maybe instead of rejecting her story outright you could use it as an opportunity to listen and learn.

  • Shelby

    Ugh. I’m sure she was unprepared to say no and I’m sure she’s regretting it to the point of nausea. Yuck. But why not stand up for yourself? It’s a shame men can be so pushy but is it criminal?

  • Damian

    I think the word assault is getting thrown around way to lightly, and with what can be horrific life destroying results. There is a big difference between being assaulted and just regretting your choices in the moment. No where in this does it seem she was forced other than by herself, there is no coercion or threats to self or career. Yes it seems he was quite forward in his wanting a sexual encounter but nothing stopping her from saying no and leaving.

  • Sansa Squad

    I agree, but Aziz’s carefully-crafted persona as a feminist/female ally probably fed into her decisions. She likely doubted herself because “hey, it’s Aziz Ansari – he had two different storylines on his show about men who overstep boundaries and make women uncomfortable, I’m safe with him because he’s a ‘good guy,’ aware of the nuances of these situations!” (Yet he repeatedly ignored cues that someone with his understanding of gendered power dynamics would absolutely understand.) There were absolutely ways she could have cut this off but I don’t fault her for giving him the benefit of the doubt. He knows better and he willfully coerced her. The violation is on him.

  • Amber

    SAY IT AINT SO

  • Shelby

    Well. She obviously was ill prepared. Many young girls are. Naive.

  • Andrew

    I don’t believe this at all!!

  • cutitout

    Feeling violated and being violated or assaulted are to very different things. As you said, coinsent is a complicated issue, but that can easily be resolved with a yes, a no or getting your things and LEAVING. And yes, it would be a case where people could listen and learn but because she chose to name him, it is much more than that for him now and she gets to go on with her life because they kept her name out of it. SHe could have easily told this story and left his name out of it but she clearly wanted attention and retribution. Everyone knows how the media/public has treated the accused.

  • cutitout

    Yeah, don’t go home on the first date with a guy if you don’t want to have sex because that is literally the only reason they invite you back, duhhhh. Let’s go back to my place is a total VERBAL CUE.

  • cutitout

    If that’s the case then 99% of sexual encounters are without consent because most people never ask each other verbally and thats goes for women as well as men. This fall back excuse of “I never said yes” is never going to fly so folks need to stop pushing it. If you are not mature enough to say no when someone is going too far for your standards than you should not be dating or alone with anyone of the opposite sex ever. You are a danger. This girls name should be released so men can watchout for her. She will do it again, especially if people support her foolishness.

  • LittlePaperStars

    I agree, I’m not saying it isn’t. He totally crossed the line as I said. His behaviour put him in the wrong. I’m in no way defending what he did, it’s gross. And she shouldn’t have to feel like that with anyone. I haven’t seen his show, so I don’t know. Its wonderful that we feel they can now come forward and speak up, but we also now have to learn to speak up in the moment (even if say no loudly and walking away shouldn’t be blood be necessary). I’ve been in a few situations myself, the first when I was 15, but I had been taught well by a mum who had suffered sexual assault and harassment herself. I got myself out of anything that made me feel uncomfortable. There will always be assholes who take advantage, who try it on, who claim not to read the cues, no matter what we do, it’s just a sad fact of life. All of this might make alot of men think twice, but not all, so we need to understand that, not be complacent and make ourselves heard, not just afterwards but in the moment too. Again, not victim shaming ‘Grace’ it’s easy to get pulled into something and not realise its actually happening until it’s happening, and as you said, she probably felt safe with him, until she didn’t. We could all have made that mistake. Its just sad she didnt feel more able to remove herself from the situation for her own sake

  • Jamie

    Rumblings where?

  • Sansa Squad

    I work in PR so I’ve heard about it from colleagues and people I know in the comedy scene, but friends of mine have seen things posted on social media (mostly private accounts and Facebook groups) by people who know his victims. It’s been relatively hush-hush, but it’s out there.

  • persononhere

    exactly. there was zero amount of force or coercion here. he just looked at his crotch and she was expected to perform? that’s lame. she seems to regret her decision and the lengthy text she wrote almost seems like a set-up of some kind, to cover herself later

  • persononhere

    a woman can’t leave and shouldn’t be victim-shamed for that? seriously? he wasn’t holding her hostage. she had every opportunity to go and didn’t. if she has a mouth, and clearly she does cuz she used it, she could have said NO at any point. she is a victim of regretting her actions and nothing more.

  • LittlePaperStars

    I said she should have left, and as per her account, she had ample opportunity to do so, perhaps never even gone back to his if she felt uncomfortable during dinner. At some point we all have to take responsibility for ourselves, but that doesn’t make his behaviour okay and hindsight is a wonderful thing. It’s difficult to totally understand a situation when the woman in question is anonymous and there’s no one really speaking to her character either way

  • Sansa Squad

    I also sincerely hope future pieces on Aziz’s misconduct address the fact that Dave Becky (same guy who repped Louis CK) has allegedly (definitely) intimidated women into silence, threatening them so they don’t press charges. Which poses the question, if his behavior isn’t criminal, what are they worried about? I realize this story alone might leave people with your average understanding of consent skeptical at best, but please withhold your judgment until the rest of it comes out. This is part of a pattern of behavior of a serial predator – Aziz is not worth defending.

  • 🖤Alternative Facts🖤

    She never stated that she was coerced or forced or pressured. That’s the problem. She makes it seem like she did it and later regretted it. It doesn’t seem as though she was fighting him off or as if she were afraid. She was a willing participant.

  • 🖤Alternative Facts🖤

    Agreed!

  • 🖤Alternative Facts🖤

    Yes. As it seems, she wanted more of a relationship and he didn’t want that. She seems more bitter than abused.

  • Knetter

    Ok so what’s your name, short of coming out stating who you are, you are an anonymous source about as believable as this story and this woman. If she didn’t want to hook up she should have said so, that’s what adults do. Not perform fellatio on cue, seems giving head would give off the impression she was willing.

  • Knetter

    It would seem an eager participant.

  • Sansa Squad

    She literally describes feeling pressured through the entire account. The actions she describes are coercion. Telling someone to slow down, you’re uncomfortable, that you don’t want to feel forced and them ignoring you to do what they want is (non-violent) force. She may have been a participant, but I’m concerned that you think she was willing.

  • Knetter

    Clearly you’ve never seen Shawshank Redemption.

  • Male Activist

    I feel bad that Aiziz was exploited by this woman. She obviously tried to take advantage of his reproductive instinct to exploit money, notoriety and social stratification. Now he is paying for it. We’re here for you Aziz!!!

  • Sansa Squad

    Perhaps she thought, “Maybe if I go down on him for a few minutes he won’t rape me.”

  • 🖤Alternative Facts🖤

    She was in the wrong here too. Sorry. I’m a advocate for assault. I’ve been a victim. But she never said “No”. There was no power push here by his part. He didn’t threaten her life or career. She was uncomfortable (understandably), but she was not forthright or honest with him. She kept allowing him to do things that she could have shut down. Close your legs. Bite down on his fingers. Scream. Yell. Fight. She didn’t do anything to really explicitly let him know of her discomfort.

  • Stephen Palmer

    This has been out of control but this really highlights it. These radical femi-nazis have hijacked this movement. Look if you don’t feel comfortable leave. What else would a young single male want to take you back to his apt late night for?

  • KEVIN

    Women of this generation think the world is supposed to be their “safe space.” That they can walk down the street drunk and naked, and have the right to not even be glanced at look at or its “rape.”

    Special treatment is what the feminist movement, and the “Me Too” movement is really all about about. A bunch of unattractive has been women, regretful of their actions, now want to claim they were mistreated.

    It’s funny how women(especially hollywood ) don’t mind being used for their looks until they loose them, or stop getting the jobs they used to. Most younger feminist’s were never all that attractive, and hate men and the attention more attractive women recieve.

  • Sansa Squad

    Yeah, and she probably should’ve, but “not saying no” isn’t consent. Legally, you don’t have consent unless you get a verbal “yes.”

  • KEVIN

    But your assuming his guilt because of rumblings, instead of legitimate proof he did something wrong. if you can’t see how wrong that is…….its just baffling.

    What if you whole livelihood was at steak because of “rumblings” that you “might” have done something wrong?

  • persononhere

    did you get to read her text from that other site they linked? i don’t think she’s trying to be anonymous, but perhaps.

  • Knetter

    Ya right, so rather than say no she’ll perform some oral and that’ll corral him. You are unbelievably immature and have zero understanding in such a situation, my guess either you’re too young or just have no dating experience. She never rebuffed his advances, she never said no.

  • RoccosBrother

    I was once coerced into going out when I wanted to stay home and sleep. I said “No” and was visibly uncomfortable. Despite this, the person kept pestering and pushing me. I guess this makes me a victim of some form of assault also.